'He doesn't let me wear short dresses'
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. I don't have any serious issue with him, except for the fact that he doesn't allow me to wear short dresses...
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. I don't have any serious issue with him, except for the fact that he doesn't allow me to wear short dresses. He says it's for my safety, and that it prevents people on the street from staring at me, but I think he's being over-protective and ridiculous. It's my body and how I choose to dress should be my decision, not his. Am I being ridiculous?
You're being anything but ridiculous. In fact, he's the one who needs to question his decisions, not you. What you choose to wear is your prerogative entirely. How people react on the street is their problem, not yours. It's easy to blame women, which is something that comes naturally to millions of us in this country, but it is people like your boyfriend who are the problem. If he has issues with what you wear, which is an essential part of your identity and who you are, he should learn to keep his opinion to himself.
I have been in a relationship with someone for two months now and, for all this time, I have not been allowed to order South Indian food at restaurants. My girlfriend says it reminds her of her ex-boyfriend, who survived exclusively on that cuisine. I find this disturbing because I feel as if she still has feelings for him. Why does my ordering South Indian food have to remind her of him anyway? What should I do?
It's just been two months. If it reminds her of him, it won't after some point. It's not as if she's going to go through life avoiding South Indian food. It's obviously a touchy issue for her at the moment, so be supportive. It's not as if you can't order South Indian food at home either, when she's not around. Give it time. Take her to Mani's in Chembur a few months from now and, if the menu doesn't compel her to forget about her ex-boyfriend, nothing will.
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