Her snapchat posts are problematic

Published: Feb 27, 2020, 05:20 IST | DR Love | Mumbai

I don't know if she is lying to me, or if she is hiding aspects of her past before I entered her life

Illustration/ Uday Mohite
Illustration/ Uday Mohite

picI have started to have serious doubts about my girlfriend because of what she posts on Snapchat. She is sometimes suggestive, and gets comments from people I don't know, complimenting her on her looks. She says she doesn't know them very well, but they sound very comfortable with her. I don't know if she is lying to me, or if she is hiding aspects of her past before I entered her life. How can I tell if she is cheating on me? Am I being paranoid? I don't like not trusting her, but she doesn't make it easy for me.

If posts on a social media platform alone make you doubt your girlfriend, you should try figuring out if there are other areas of your relationship that need to be worked upon. Does she do or say anything to make you feel insecure when she isn't on Snapchat? If you have access to these conversations, it means she isn't exactly trying to hide them from you. I suggest you tell her why you feel the way you do, even if you do believe there is some paranoia, and give her a chance to ally your fears. Being honest about how you feel is the first step towards addressing those feelings.

My boyfriend and I split up for three months last year, and I ended up sleeping with a friend during that period. He doesn't know about it, but I am constantly nervous about him finding out somehow. This is starting to keep me up at night. What should I do? If I come clean and tell him, I am afraid he will break up with me. We were not together at the time, so I don't feel guilty, but he may not see it that way. Please help.

If you're not guilty, were not in a relationship, and are constantly afraid of how he will react, the smartest thing may be to simply tell him what happened and hope he is as mature about it as you are.

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