'He's sorry for hitting me, but I can't forgive him'

Updated: Dec 14, 2017, 11:27 IST | Dr Love

My boyfriend assaulted me a week ago during a fight. He has apologised a thousand times since then, but I don't want to be with him anymore. Am I doing the right thing?

Dr. Love

Dr. LoveMy boyfriend assaulted me a week ago during a fight. He has apologised a thousand times since then, but I don't want to be with him anymore. Am I doing the right thing?

Yes. Violence in any form is despicable. It shows a lack of respect and an inability to deal with a relationship like a rational adult. He needs to understand that assaulting someone is punishable by law.

There is a gentleman in my office who is supposedly happily married and seems like a great guy. We were on an offsite a week ago and, after a few drinks, he told me he has had a crush on me since the day I joined this office. I was flattered and we chatted for a while. Since then, we have been chatting regularly on WhatsApp, and we have a great time sharing jokes and laughing at the same things. I think I have a connection with him, which is wrong because I know he's married and I can't expect anything to happen, but I sometimes get the feeling he wants more than just a conversation. I am not prepared to have an affair with a married man, but he makes me happier than I have been in a long time. How do I stop myself from doing something impulsive and stupid that I may come to regret later?

If you know that what you're doing is wrong, I'm not sure how anyone else can prevent you from doing it. This is a married man you barely know, and you believe you have a connection with him on the basis of a few conversations on WhatsApp? Let's put aside questions of morality that crop up when someone's cheating on a spouse, the thing you ought to ask yourself is what you get from indulging in any kind of relationship with this person. He may be a great guy, but there are a lot of single men who happen to be great guys too. Why not look harder?

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