How can I find out how she feels about sex?

Updated: Dec 25, 2017, 11:03 IST | Dr Love

I want to ask my girlfriend to consider having sex with me because we have been together for three months now. How do I broach the subject without coming across as a creep?

Dr. Love

Dr. LoveI want to ask my girlfriend to consider having sex with me because we have been together for three months now. How do I broach the subject without coming across as a creep?

It's not creepy if you simply come out and ask her how she feels about it. You're not forcing her, she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to, and, if she's thinking about it too, she'll discuss it if you make that conversation possible. Either way, this is a discussion only the two of you can have as adults. Talking about sex is perfectly natural and shouldn't be a cause for embarrassment.

My mother has a problem with all my boyfriends, for reasons I don't fully understand. My dad is always cool and extremely polite whenever I bring anyone home, but my mother doesn't even bother to acknowledge them properly, which is not just rude but also disheartening. I don't even bother asking my current boyfriend to come over because of her behaviour. I think it's sad because I would love to have the kind of relationship with her that allows me to be cool and open about anything and everything, but I never can be because of her unreasonable behaviour. How do I get her to change? How do I get her to see things from my point of view?

There's something protective about why she has a problem, as well as something to do with an inability to relinquish control. Then again, maybe I'm just over thinking this and she's probably just a prude. Either way, I agree that it's sad about not being able to have a transparent relationship with her, especially considering your other parent has managed to do that well so far. Have you spoken to your father about this? He probably has a better idea of what's going on, why she is the way she is when it comes to your boyfriends and, most importantly, how she can change for the better.

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