'How do I satisfy my uncontrollable sexual urges?'

May 14, 2014, 15:18 IST | Dr Prakash Kothari and Rachna Kothari

Clinical sexologist Dr Prakash Kothari and Counseling Psychologist Rachna Kothari answer your sex-related queries

Q. My husband has gone to Dubai for business for 4 months. I keep busy with my 8-month old daughter. But sometimes, I feel very sexually active and the urge is uncontrollable. How do I satisfy myself?
— Help needed
A. Sometimes, in every individual, sexual desire becomes uncontrollable and it needs to be satiated. Indulging in sexual activity with some unknown person and inviting problems with unwanted pregnancy and other sexually transmitted infections including HIV AIDS...self satisfaction is far better and a safer alternative! You can indulge in fantasy of your choice and with added stimulation either of your finger or if the need arises, you may even use a personal massager to enhance sexual arousal culminating in climax. Important thing is satisfaction which you can achieve very comfortably and safely in your own privacy and with your own choice of fantasy.

Q. I’m soon to be married but I don’t have much knowledge about sex. Once upon a time an astrologer after reading my horoscope had stated that my sex life won’t be pleasant. Does astrology really have any correlation with sex?
— Anxious
A. Astrology is indeed a great science but unfortunately it has varies exceptional rules which is humanly impossible to properly understand most of them. I have yet to come across a competent astrologer who is true in his predictions all the time! Hence my advise would be always take this as a directorial science and not a dictatorial science! To understand what to do about sex and how to go about it, I would recommend a book “Sex & You” by VRP Publishers in English or “Sex, samasyayein aur samadhan” in Hindi by VRP Publishers.

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