'How do I talk to my girlfriend about sex?'

Aug 07, 2018, 07:00 IST | Dr Love

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'How do I talk to my girlfriend about sex?'

Dr LoveShould I tell my girlfriend about how I feel when it comes to sex? I don't want her to think of me as some kind of pervert.
I don't know what you mean, but sex is something you should both be comfortable enough to talk about. If there's something you wish to say about it, say it. Being open about your feelings as well as your sexual preferences is important for any relationship.

When is it okay for two people who are in love to talk about marriage? My girlfriend and I have been together for two years now, and we get along very well, but whenever we even mention a possible engagement, neither of us feels comfortable enough to continue the conversation. I don't know if this is a sign that we are not as strong a couple as we would like to believe, but it's beginning to worry me a little. I want to marry her, of course, and I hope she feels the same way, too, but I can't go ahead and make these plans if we can't even talk about them. What should I do? Should I speak to her parents directly? This will upset her, but I don't know if I have a choice. I can't continue like this.
This doesn't make sense. If you want to marry her, but can't actually have a conversation about how you feel, why is the onus upon her to initiate this? Why involve her parents? This is about the two of you alone, and you should both have this conversation first. If you can't speak right now, give it time until you are both comfortable enough to talk about it. At the very least, ask her when she thinks you should both discuss it, if actually talking about specific details is difficult for you both right now. It sounds as if you are creating this pressure for yourself, to be honest. Don't rush into anything you don't have to.

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