I am addicted to pornography

Oct 02, 2012, 08:03 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, I'm 32 and my wife is four years younger to me. We have one daughter. My problem is that I'm addicted to pornography. I wasn't always like this though

 Just after the birth of our child, my wife stopped paying attention to me. Most of the time, she’s tired and rejects my advances. And if at all she agrees to have sex with me, she’s in such a hurry to get over it that it kills the joy for me. I can’t even blame her for the way things are as of now. She’s just stressed with the work that follows the birth of a child and the chores she has to do. But then, I work hard too and have needs as well.
- Aarav

Dear Diana
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Dear Aarav,
You know your wife has lots to do on the homefront with the arrival of the baby. So you can be patient. You need to divert your attention into other things... get involved with your friends, go out, or have long conversations with your buddies. However, since you have become addicted to pornography, it is obvious that overcoming it will not be so easy. You should understand your wife’s situation presently. Sex is last on her mind at present. But if you think you, too, have your ‘needs’ and are eager to fulfill them by watching porn, then it’s your call. But remember overdoing it can affect your mental health, everything’s good within limits. 

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