'I am having an office affair...'

Oct 03, 2015, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

I have a good rapport with one of my female colleagues at my work place.

Dear Diana,
I have a good rapport with one of my female colleagues at my work place. I turn to her whenever I feel bogged down with work. She is helpful and is good at her job. Of late, we have been getting intimate. I find that she does not resist my advances. I am married, so at the end of the day, I am filled with guilt and remorse. At the same time, I love my wife dearly and would never do anything to upset her. But then I am enjoying my escapades with her. The time I spend with her are bliss; she makes me feel special. Recently, she has also started borrowing money from me. She tells me it is for her personal expenses. So whenever she demands cash, I have been giving it to her. I realise that when she wants a bigger amount, she becomes extra nice to me. Is she taking me for a ride?
— Sunny

Dear Diana

Illustration/Uday Mohite

Dear Sunny,
Yes, she is definitely taking you for a ride and you better be warned. This woman appears to be a smooth operator. First, she tried to be helpful, then she allowed you to get physical with her. And now she is borrowing money from you. You are a fool to fall prey to her advances. This woman is not going to return your money. Chances are that as soon as she gets what she wants with the money she is taking from you, she will drop you like a hot potato. Beware of this lady. She might just end up blackmailing you. Remember you are having an extramarital affair and you are messing up both your personal and professional life. You say you would never do anything that would upset your wife, but what you are doing is going to break your wife. So stop financially helping this colleague and learn to do your own work. Before you and she become office gossip, put your life on track. If things go out of hand, it is better you look for another job.

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