'I am married but still in touch with my boyfriend'

Sep 24, 2013, 23:39 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, I am 26 and got married six months ago to a guy my parents chose. I had a boyfriend but our families were not too keen about the relationship.

We did not have the courage to rebel. I now feel that my married life is listless. I keep remembering my guy with whom I am still in touch with. My husband has no clue about my affair. I must admit that he tries his best to make me happy. What should I do?
— Swastika

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Swastika,
You are to blame for the state of affairs in your life. If you and your guy were so serious about each other, why did you not convince your respective folks and get them to agree. You should have been patient and persuasive. Now that you have taken the plunge, your constant interactions with the guy amounts to an extra-marital affair. Your poor hubby has no clue and he is trying his best to make you comfortable in your new home. Why are you ruining his life? Your boyfriend was a coward and unable to take a stand. You cannot be influenced by him. It was your decision to wed someone else. Maintain the sanctity of the marriage and let go this guy. Be happy in the situation you have chosen to be in.

Diana will solve it!
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