I am married, but my ex is back in my life

Nov 07, 2011, 09:58 IST | Dear Diana

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Dear Diana,
I find myself in a big mess torn between my hubby and an ex-flame. I got married 10 months ago to a guy of my family's choice. But my ex-boyfriend is back on the scene leaving me pining for him. To be honest my marriage lacks romance. When I bumped into my ex a month back, I realised that he is still the guy I love. We had a misunderstanding due to which he had walked away from me. But with him there was still that instant connect which is totally lacking with my husband. What do I do?
-- Bhavika

Illustration/ Satish Acharya

Dear Bhavika,

My dear girl, marriage takes work and you have given up on it in barely 10 months. You are blaming your husband for the lack of romance, but what about you? What are you doing to keep that spark going in it? Marriage is about having someone who stays with you even after knowing who you really are, and still wants to be with you. Your ex left you and didn't care about how it would hurt you! Make your marriage work, put effort into it. Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. I am sure he, too, may be feeling likewise.

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