'I am torn between my wife and lover...'

Feb 26, 2015, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

I am in love with a girl in my office. She is five years younger to me. I was always comfortable with her from day one...

Dear Diana,
I am in love with a girl in my office. She is five years younger to me. I was always comfortable with her from day one. Sometimes you meet people who you could relate to and are happy to be with them. She was definitely one of them. She is single. Once she needed money and turned to me for help. Ever since I have been hooked on to her. She regularly borrows money from me, but never returns what I give her. I tried to kiss her once and she did not resist my advances and we started getting physical. I am married and am torn between my wife and her. I cannot leave her for my wife. At the same time I cannot forget this girl. What do I do?
— Maninder

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Maninder,
You may have fallen for this girl, but beware of her. She is borrowing heavily from you. It appears that there is an ulterior motive behind her friendship with you. She needs you for a reason and for that she is willing to go to any lengths. It is strange that she has not yet returned any money that she has been regularly taking from you. I will not be surprised if one fine day she does the disappearing act from your life. You are a fool to believe her and wreck your marriage for her. It is highly likely that as you are giving her money, she is not resisting your advances. How come she has never thought of returning what she has borrowed from you? Have you ever asked her to return it? You are allowing yourself to be used by her. What you are mistaking for love is just convenience for her. As she is showering you with attention and indulging in sweet talk, you are falling a prey to her. Stop giving her money whenever she asks for and then she how her behaviour changes. She will then start resisting your advances. Before your wife finds out, get going and forget this girl.

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