'I can't stop crying after my break up...'

May 14, 2015, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

I was in a relationship with a married man for the last two years and broke up with him recently...

Dear Diana,
I was in a relationship with a married man for the last two years and broke up with him recently. We met during a travel and tourism conference and we started hanging out after work. As we were working in the same field, we had lots to talk about. Initially, our meetings were work related, but I found myself extremely comfortable in his company. Gradually one thing led to another and he demanded sex. I then realised that he wanted to be in a relationship with me to satisfy his physical urges. He would disregard my feelings and whenever I would not give in to his demands, he would get angry and not talk to me. Then again he would be return. Last week, I decided to end the relationship with him. But I can't seem to stop crying. Was I in love with him? I miss him and want to be with him. I really do not know how to forget him. Ever since I told him that I wanted to end the relationship, he has stopped talking to me.
– Saiyami

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Saiyami,
You need to give yourself time to heal your broken heart. It will take a while. You cannot overcome it in a week or two, but it will happen. If you keep brooding about what happened and thinking about the time he spent with you, it will make it even more difficult for you to move on. You need to keep yourself busy at work so that you have no time to harbour any such thoughts. Immerse yourself in some creative pursuits. Let the man remain your past. He was having an extra marital affair. Things could have been chaotic had his wife and other family members got to know the truth. Before things got messier, you took a stand and walked out of the relationship. You miss him because he gave you attention. If you think about it logically and not with your heart, you will see you made a wise decision. Tough choice, but the right one.

Diana will solve it!
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