'I don't want my guy to think that I'm a nymphomaniac'

Jan 23, 2013, 00:25 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, I'm going out with this 28-year-old guy and we have hit it off very well.

However, I don’t think I’m satisfied with his performance in bed. He’s a good lover but I feel that he switches off way too soon. In fact, he doesn’t talk to me after we are done with the deed and quickly snoozes off. I don’t want him to cuddle me. I just want to continue but I dare not to do that by insisting on more! Besides, I don’t want him to assume that I’m a nymphomaniac which I’m not.
— Kaviya

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Kaviya,
This is an extremely common problem — men do fall asleep after sex. There have also been books written on the subject as well as research done on it. It is said that when men climax, the drug released in the brain is linked to sleep. The blood-rush after climax depletes the muscles of energy-producing glycogen, and because men have more muscle mass than women, they feel more exhausted. So instead indulge your guy in pillow talk, so at least he will not snooze off immediately — but after a while. 

Diana will solve it!
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