'I find her phone calls irritating...'

Sep 17, 2014, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

I am 26 and my family has found a girl for me. Her parents are known to my folks

Dear Diana,
I am 26 and my family has found a girl for me. Her parents are known to my folks. I don't think this is a good decision as I barely know her. I have met her at family events, but not spent time with her alone. Ever since the match was fixed, she has been bombarding me with phone calls. We have been given each other's cell numbers. She keeps calling me continuously to the point of irritation. Sometimes she behaves naive while at times she shocks me with her bold talk. I am confused and don't know whether it is a correct decision to wed her or not. Not that I am keen on her, but my parents are not willing to listen to my viewpoint at all. What should I do to get out of the mess?
— Abid


Dear Abid,
You barely know this girl, so first get to know her before passing remarks about her. There is no harm in getting acquainted with her. May be after interacting with her, you may have a different opinion about the girl. Or it will be easier to explain to your family why she is not a good match for you. It is better that you have an open mind rather than jump to conclusions. Once you have spent time with her, then accordingly take a decision whether you want her as a life partner or not.

Dear Diana,
I've been in a relationship for the past five years with a guy. He recently got married to a girl of his family's choice, but we are still in touch. He says he will remain my boyfriend. I don't know what to do. Should I still be in a secret relation with him? After his marriage, he has not been giving me much time.
— Kalika

Dear Kalika,
If he really loved you and cared for you, he would have not got married to someone else. Why did he agree to an arranged marriage? This man did not stand up to you and cannot be trusted. You need to go your way now that he is married. He can't be cheating on his wife.

Diana will solve it!
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