'I get tongue-tied when girls are around...'

Jun 10, 2014, 06:10 IST | Dear Diana

I am 25 and get tongue-tied when I am with girls. I don't know how to strike a conversation with them

Dear Diana,
I'm 25 and get tongue-tied when I am with girls. I don't know how to strike a conversation with them. My shyness is preventing me from being in a relationship. I do not have the confidence to strike a conversation with a girl. I feel like I'm being judged and therefore I stop myself from expressing my opinions. I haven't had the guts to ask a girl out when all my pals have someone special in their lives.
— Armaan

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Armaan,
Just be cool, instead of being anxious and nervous of what others might think of you.
Relax and remember that the girl also has her set of fears. She probably might be equally nervous to strike a conversation with you. Even if you fumble it is okay, just crack a joke and laugh at yourself. Also, don't be self-conscious and worry too much of what to say. Just go with the flow and be yourself.

Dear Diana,
I am 17 and studying in junior college. I like this girl in my coaching class. She is also in the same college, but in a different division. We keep smiling at each other, but have not spoken a word to each other. Often we are sitting on the same bench in the classroom, yet we do not speak to each other. What should I do to get her to talk to me? We will be appearing for our HSC board exams next year, and we might not be in the same college or coaching class next year.
— Raideep

Dear Raideep,
All this while you have kept smiling at each other, next time talk to her. You can tell her you did not follow what was taught in class or anything else related to the curriculum. There are numerous subjects you can talk about to her with reference to your studies. At the moment strike a friendship, get to know her first. It should not be tough as you two have many things in common.

Diana will solve it!
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