I'm in love with an older woman

May 16, 2012, 06:32 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, I'm a 26-year-old man who has fallen for a woman who is 36. She's a colleague of mine and is a single mother to a 10-year-old girl. She recently went through a bitter divorce and I have been a source of great support for her.

Eventually I confessed my love for her which she reciprocated. We are going out but this relationship hasn’t been approved by my friends yet, let alone my family. My mom is furious at my choice of life partner. I don’t know how to confront any of them. I thought they’ll be happy for me but none have said anything positive with regards to my love life. I don’t see anything wrong with me when it’s perfectly fine for a man to go out with a much younger woman.
— Tabrez

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Tabrez,
She is a decade older to you and there is a kid in the picture too. You may be in love with her but life won’t be easy if you plan to take the relationship to the next level. It is obvious that your parents and friends will object. No doubt there are cases of older women and younger men tying the knot. If you don’t mind facing the storm you will unleash in the process, go forth. Remember you have to play papa to a 10-year-old too. Are you ready for it? Think before you take the plunge. Perhaps you are confusing sympathy for her with love.

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