'I'm married but have fallen for an office colleague'

Aug 13, 2013, 23:36 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, I am attracted to a female colleague. She is married and so am I. Initially for a few years, we barely spoke but gradually we got talking and now are good friends.

A while back I told her I loved her. She told me she could sense it all these years in office but insisted that we be the best of friends. The truth, however, is that for me she has to be my lover. I drop her home often even though she keeps reminding me that one day we will be caught. What should I do?
— Shyam

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Shyam,
You and your colleague know very well that you are playing with fire. Remember this is going to affect not only two families but even your professional lives. Being a close friend of a colleague is okay but it seems you want to cross the line. It appears that your colleague feels guilty about it and keeps reminding you about it. But eventually she gives in because you get demanding. She does not want to lose you as a friend but you see her as a lover. If you don’t want any hell to break lose in your professional and personal life, stop seeing her. Let her remain just a colleague and your best friend.

Diana will solve it!
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