Dear Diana, I met a guy in college when I was 20. I liked him a lot; he was more than just a friend. Initially he was extremely friendly but later we grew apart. I can't seem to forget him, even though it has been almost nine years. I recently learned that he is married
So I decided to email him and congratulate him. I also told him about how I felt about him and whether I should call him. His reply was very stern and said he didn’t think we should talk because he is married now. I feel like a fool to have contacted him after such a long interval. What should I do?
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Ignore him. You made a mistake by emailing and perhaps did not expect such a harsh reply. He has his reasons to be loyal to his wife, so respect it. It looks like you have still not overcome him and have feelings for him. Remember this was all futile as this guy did not care for you or your feelings. You need to move on. You, too, are 29 and need to get on with your life. It might be tough for you but you have to banish any thoughts about him. He was not worth it. Avoid him like the plague!