'I want my woman to dominate me in the bedroom...'

Sep 12, 2014, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

I have this fantasy that the woman I marry should take complete control when it comes to the bedroom

Dear Diana,
I have this fantasy that the woman I marry should take complete control when it comes to the bedroom. I want her to dominate me and take charge. I cannot imagine achieving sexual gratification otherwise. I am 29 and single. I guess it will be difficult for me to fulfil this fantasy. What do I do?
— Areesh

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Areesh,
You may harbour fantasies, but first you need to find a life partner. You are 29 and single. So instead of living in your dream world and thinking about your fantasies, find a woman to love. Whether you opt for an arranged marriage or a love match, it is up to you how you want to behave in the bedroom. That is between you and the woman you love. So instead of just dreaming about your fantasies, set forth first in finding a lady of your dreams.

Dear Diana,
I have been in a relationship for 15 months now. From my girlfriend's recent behaviour, it seems that she is not interested in me anymore. She doesn't have time either to meet me or hang out with me, but has plenty of time to hang around with other guys. The only problem is I am so in love with her and even after trying a lot of times I can't move on whereas staying doesn't even make any sense. When I ask her about it, she just laughs out loud.
— Daniyal

Dear Daniyal,
Clearly, this girl is taking you for a merry ride. You are a fool to believe what she is saying. You may be in love with her, but she cannot take you for granted. Sit down and have a talk with her. You need to tell her exactly how you feel. Hopefully she will take out time to have a conversation with you. Before that clear your muddled mind. She is just using you and you are allowing to do it. Stand up for yourself and if she continues with this behaviour, walk away from her.

Diana will solve it!
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