I'm worried she dresses too provocatively
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How do I tell my girlfriend to change the way she dresses? It's provocative for no reason and I worry about her safety. I have tried saying things but she takes it badly and accuses me of trying to control her. I just want her to dress in a particular way because I care.
You have no right to tell her what to wear. It's her body and her right to choose. It's precisely because you think the problem is the way she dresses, and not the way people look at women in this country, that we have created an environment that is so unsafe. Open your eyes.
There are two interesting women in my office, both of whom I have a crush on. I have considered asking them out, but don't because they are close friends and meeting one will mean that the other will instantly be told that I have been on a date. I can't make up my mind about which of these two women to ask first, because it means the other one may instantly refuse if I ask her the next time. What if I go out with the wrong person, after which the right one ignores me for what I have done? I can't find a way out of this, despite thinking about it a lot. Please help me find a solution.
I have to put aside the mildly creepy vibe I get from your question because it implies that, a) these women don't have the ability to think for themselves; b) are both falling over themselves to go out with you and; c) are incapable of dealing with the concept of dating. If you want to ask someone out, do it. Be honest about your feelings, and don't try hiding the fact that you are also going out with other people, because it's perfectly acceptable for adults to date until they find someone interesting. Do keep in mind the possibility of things being awkward at the office though.
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