I've loved her for years, but never told her about it

Jan 03, 2018, 06:00 IST | Dr Love

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Dr. LoveI have been in love with a girl since school and, we have become the closest of friends over time. She is currently in a relationship with someone else. I didn't confess my love all these years because she needed a friend she could trust and share everything with. Although it is hard, I can continue living like this until death. But is hiding my love like cheating her in some way? Will confessing it end our friendship? 
- Shashank M

I wouldn't go so far as to say that you're cheating her, but you are simply doing yourself a disservice by suppressing your feelings. If this is one of your closest friends, why are you worried about the consequences of telling her how you feel? The strongest friendships are based on honesty and trust.

I met this guy through a mutual friend three months ago, and we began chatting. He asked me out once or twice, but I declined for a number of reasons. Since then, he has limited his chats. We barely speak now, except for greetings on occasions. I have no idea what to do and whether he is involved with another girl. I think I am helplessly in love with him though. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do?
- Sanju D

How exactly are you helplessly in love with someone you haven't actually spent quality time with? Having a crush is fine, but to be in love with someone without even being aware of his current relationship status does come across as a bit premature. If you like him, ask him out. Tell him you would like to go out with him, because it's obvious he believes you're not interested. Don't let your ego get in the way of simply meeting him and having a chat. Don't assume you know someone on the basis of a few cursory chats either. You can get to know him better only if you actually spend time with him,
so send him a message today.

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