'I've stopped meeting people after my break-up'
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I don't know if it makes sense to send you this message, because it has nothing to do with dating, but I feel demoralised after my last relationship ended. It was over a year ago, and I'm yet to go out and start meeting new people. I don't feel like it anymore. I barely meet my friends, not even people I have known for years. I just sit at home and watch television, which makes me feel a lot older than I actually am. I feel lifeless, which is frightening because I am only 25. I don't know if I am doing something wrong or if anyone will ever accept me for who I am, so I don't even try. I want to change, but don't know what to do or how to overcome this sudden fright I have about people. I know it's not rational, but I can't help myself, which is what worries me a lot. What can I do to make things more bearable?
It's perfectly normal to feel lost, depressed and rejected after the end of a relationship, because that is part of what makes us human. It's also perfectly normal to feel depressed, and allow it to overwhelm you to such an extent that you find it impossible to interact with other people. The good thing is you recognise that you're depressed, and intend to get better. That is half the battle won. Depression can be controlled, if not eliminated, provided you speak to a professional counsellor who can help you. There are obviously a number of things bothering you, and the end of your relationship may simply have been a trigger of sorts. Speak to a professional and understand that this
is not something to shy away from. Millions of us suffer from depression, and it is only those who choose to do something about it that manage to combat it. Speak up about how you feel, because conversations are the first step towards acknowledgement of a problem.
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