'My boyfriend dumps me at his convenience...'
Dear Diana, I was in a relationship with a guy whose family had found a suitable match for him.
He claimed to love me as he barely knew the girl. He always maintained that he never wanted to be in a relationship with the girl. So I never asked him about her. After a while, however, his attitude changed as he stopped meeting me or taking my phone calls. One fine day, he popped up to say that he did not love me and that he was going back to the girl of his family’s choice. I was shattered but there was nothing I could do. Now, he wants to be back in my life as his alliance with the girl is off.
This guy is a wimp and cannot be trusted. He dropped you like a hot potato when his family found a girl for him. Now that the alliance is off, he wants you back. It is so convenient for him to keep you on hold, turning to you whenever he feels like. You cannot be at his beck and call. He is kept you on stand by and when other options fail he wants you back. You cannot be a Plan B in his life. This guy has deceived you once, and he will do it again when his parents find another girl for him. You need to stand up to him and make him aware that you cannot be at his mercy. If you still love him, get things sorted before you take the plunge or you are better off without such a spineless guy.
Diana will solve it!
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