'My boyfriend is not romantic at all...'

May 28, 2014, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 25. We met over a month ago. We get along well, but he's not at all romantic.

Dear Diana,
I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 25. We met over a month ago. We get along well, but he's not at all romantic. I wouldn't say he's boring because he makes me laugh. But I'd be thrilled to see him show his romantic side once in a while. Maybe he's shy. He has not even kissed me. Or am I overdemanding? This is a first, for both of us, relationship-wise.
— Roli

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Roli,
You need to give him time. He is playing safe as he does not want to come across as a demanding guy. If he had gone far it would be a case of too much too soon. It's barely a month so he wants to be sure of your feelings for him. If he had tried to be physical with you, it may have put you off. Give him some time as he looks like the guy who plays safe. Meanwhile, you can drop big hints and hopefully he will get a cue.

Dear Diana,
I am 29 years old. I recently met this woman and fell in love with her. She is married, but she says she is unhappy. We have been having a physical relationship. I feel if I have a physical relationship with her, I can convince her to dump her hubby and marry me. We are meeting on the sly almost every day. There is the fear of being caught, but she says she is not scared of anyone. I have told her to tell her folks that she wants to move on in life. But she is adamant that we continue our relationship on the sly for
a while.
— Rayaan

Dear Rayaan,
You are playing with fire, one day you two will be caught. Your life as well as hers will be messed up forever. Her hubby will not let you live in peace. If you two are interested in each other, you need to inform your folk and she needs to tell her guys ASAP. You'll have gone too far too soon. If she says she is not scared of anyone, what is stopping her from taking a decision? Unless she is taking you for a merry ride. So be wary of her too.

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