'My fantasy has backfired on me!'

Apr 24, 2013, 00:00 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, My girl and I have been together for four years now. We have always been open in our relationship and even discussed possibilities of being sexually open to other partners.

I confessed to her my fantasy fetish for seeing her with another guy. In return, she told me she found her personal trainer really attractive and wants to sleep with him. While I respect her for being open about letting me sleep around (though I haven’t), I also feel nervous about her being with another guy. Maybe it’s a guy thing but I don’t know if I’m comfortable with her being with a guy I know is a lot fitter and presumably better endowed than me. Am I in a mess?
— Jaan

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Jaan,
Are you nuts? What a mess you have created! You should have thought of all this before telling your girl to sleep with someone else! Harbouring fantasies is okay but all of them cannot be translated into the real world. By telling your girl to get close to some other guy you are creating big trouble for yourself as well as the girl. I suggest if you are serious about your girl, make a decision and take the relationship to the next level. And keep all your fantasies to yourself! 

Diana will solve it!
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