'My friends say a guy and girl can't be friends'

Updated: 07 December, 2016 15:35 IST | Dr. Love |

I have been friends with a girl for a long time and my male friends believe we should get into a relationship...

I have been friends with a girl for a long time and my male friends believe we should get into a relationship. I have tried to explain that we are happy just being friends, but they say it is impossible to be friends with someone of the opposite sex. Are they correct? I prefer being friends with her.
Your friends sound like they have a collective IQ of 9. They should be politicians. If you don't want to get into a relationship with someone, you shouldn't have to just because your friends believe you should. Also, they have conveniently ignored the possibility that the girl you mention may not want to be in a relationship either. If the two of you like being friends and have a good time when you are both together, that's the best thing you can ask for. Also, everyone needs more friends from the opposite sex, simply because it opens up your worldview and helps you understand life a little better. Try explaining that to your friends some time.

I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago. We just didn't see eye to eye on a few issues, so it made sense to end the relationship. We get along really well though and I hope we can be friends. Will this complicate my life? He was a friend of mine before we got into a relationship and I don't want that to end. What should I do?
There's absolutely nothing wrong with being friends with your ex. Millions of people manage to do it, and lead better lives on account of it, provided they are mature about how their relationship has changed. This takes time though, because it involves a certain amount of adjustment for you both. It's certainly healthy to try and be friends, especially considering that's what you once were, but I suggest you see how he feels about it too. Think about how this can affect your next relationship and his, for instance.

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First Published: 29 November, 2016 06:00 IST

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