'My girlfriend does not want to get physically intimate'
Dear Diana, I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 23. We are both software engineers. It's almost a year since we have been together.
But my girlfriend does not want to get physically intimade. We haven’t even kissed yet. I’ve tried initiating things but she always rebuffs my moves, leaving me with no choice but to abandon any such plan.
Your girlfriend has put the brakes on physical intimacy because she’s afraid that it’s going to turn into sex. In the heat of the moment, one thing leads to another. It is also a sign that she is not too sure about the relationship; and is unsure of what the future will hold. Instead of moaning about the lack of physical intimacy, work on the relationship and gain her trust after which she might change her stance.
Diana will solve it!
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