My girlfriend has told everyone that we are just pals

Apr 06, 2012, 06:28 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, I am a college student and in a relationship with a classmate. She tells everyone that we are just friends whereas we both know that we are more than that.

I don’t understand why she has to be so coy. It’s a bit confusing. Whenever I try to tell her that it bothers me, she doesn’t pay attention and acts as if I’m talking nonsense. She has even made her best friends believe that we two are just buddies who hang out which is absolutely ridiculous. I’m still trying to figure out why she is doing this. Only if she talked to me about her insecurities, but she simply doesn’t answer my questions.
— Vinant

Illustration/ Satish Acharya

Dear Vinant,
Good heavens! My dear you seem to be in a tearing hurry for commitment. Both of you are still extremely young and there is no need to rush into anything. It is but natural that she prefers to be guarded and not reveal her relationship status to the world. How do you know what the future holds? At this age, you need to concentrate on your studies first. Your girl is acting coy as she is extra cautious and does not know where five to seven years down the line you and she will be. There are many college romances that blossom into marriage but at this stage let her be your closest buddy. Take your relationship to the next level only after a while; after you have completed your studies. 

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