My girlfriend lies to everyone, all the time
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One of the things that bothers me most about my girlfriend is how easily she lies about anything and everything to her family and friends. She lies to her parents when we go out, lies to her friends when she doesn't want to meet them somewhere, and even lies to people we barely know by pretending to like something, when I know for a fact that she doesn't. I'm not saying I am honest all the time, but she sometimes gives me the impression that she has an ailment because of how easily she drowns her conscience out. I don't know how to tell her this, even though I think it sometimes shows on my face. The worst thing about this habit is I have now started to doubt all the things she tells me too. If she can lie to her parents and her best friends, what prevents her from putting on a façade every time we go out?
It takes a while to get to know someone. If your girlfriend lies about a lot of things, and you believe she may be lying to you too, try and understand why she does it, or what she possibly hopes to accomplish by doing it. Evaluate the kind of lies too, because white lies go a long way towards helping some relationships. For instance, you'd be surprised at the number of arguments that crop up the minute someone tells their partner that the clothes they're wearing make them look awful.
The only way to get over this is to build trust, not just for you, but for your girlfriend too. If she feels as
if she needs to lie to you about something, try and figure out why that is, because it's something you can both address by just discussing it. You both need to get to a stage where you can openly discuss anything. It will take time, but that's what relationships are all about. I suggest you hang in there until that happens.
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