My in-laws are a huge financial burden

Sep 04, 2012, 07:49 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, I have been married for three years and have a two-year-old daughter. My husband earns Rs 50,000 and I'm a housewife so I don't contribute any money to the household

The problem is that my widowed mother-in-law insists that we have to give her Rs 10,000 per month for her expenses. We also take care of my sister-in-law’s two children who don’t have a father and live with us. I look after sis-in-law’s children like my own. So more than half of his salary is spent on them. Running the house with a small kid is not easy for me with so many people in the house. Till when should I bear the brunt of having a husband who is too responsible?

Dear Diana
Illustration/ Satish Acharya

Dear Bedika,
You need to do a little self-analysis. If you see your in-laws as an enemy, you’ll never get anywhere with them. No matter how troublesome they seem, you need to take the lead in working toward solving the problems. Remember you have to live with them for the rest of your life. Your mother-in-law and sister-in-law are dependents. This is how things have been for years with your hubby caring for their financial needs. All of a sudden you cannot stop your husband from financially helping them as they do not have anyone else to turn to. What you can do is to balance the budget wisely. Your hubby can tell his mom and sis also to be careful with the money. May be if all pool in together and have savings, you could all have some surplus cash by the month-end. You all need to do the budgeting and chart out how much is spent by each member of the family. 

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