My wife is not interested in sex

Sep 26, 2012, 06:11 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, Although in a stable marriage for about two decades and with two children, I am utterly dissatisfied with my sex life.

Except for the first year of marriage when I had regular sex, the rest of my married life has been devoid of it on account of the complete lack of interest shown by my wife. The only time she was willing was when we decided to have children. My wife now often tells me that I should look for sex elsewhere as she is not interested. This puts me in a moral dilemma. How should I go about it?
— Amar

Illustration/ Satish Acharya

Dear Amar,
Your wife may have lost interest due to physical, emotional or due to moral beliefs. There are several women who prefer to lead life this way devoid of sex. Only after knowing the cause of her decline which I feel is due to lack of love can you find a solution to it. Both of you also need to deeply examine your relationship. Ask yourself what you can do to bring more depth into your relationship and make it more than sex. It will be better if both of you speak freely on this subject with each other and try to understand each other. 

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