No idea what chat friend looks like!

Published: Nov 05, 2019, 07:01 IST | DR Love | Mumbai

We bonded on a love of crime thrillers and began chatting privately soon after. He says all the right things and is always kind and polite.

Dr Love
Dr Love

Dr LoveI met a guy on Facebook a few months ago, because he was part of the same group of movie fans I was in. We bonded on a love of crime thrillers and began chatting privately soon after. He says all the right things and is always kind and polite. The only thing he doesn't tell me is what he looks like. He has no personal photographs and says he won't send me any until he is comfortable enough with me. At the same time, he now knows a lot about my personal life because my information is easily available to anyone who adds me as a friend. Should I block him or spend more time and get to know him better? He and I really connect at some level, which is why I want to be patient and give him that chance. My only worry is he will turn out to be a liar and I will feel cheated in some way. What should I do?
How do you intend to spend more time with him when he won't even tell you what he looks like? How do you know it's a guy? If this has been going on for months, don't you think a normal conversation would have led to a sharing of personal information by now? What does he mean by wanting to be more comfortable with you? Online anonymity can be attractive to a lot of people, but also enables abuse. Are you comfortable with sharing personal information with a stranger? Are you comfortable adding someone as a friend without even knowing what they look like, simply because you share the same interest in movies? Would you be as comfortable doing this with someone offline, in real life? These are questions you should ask yourself before putting up anything online, because it may help prevent the manipulating or misuse of your data. If this person doesn't want to tell you what he (or she) looks like, you should seriously reconsider this online friendship.

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