Recipe for moving on from heartbreaks revealed
While we generally tend to avoid talks about a break-up, a new study claims that reflecting upon the incident can actually speed up the emotional recovery process
Washington: While we generally tend to avoid talks about a break-up, a new study claims that reflecting upon the incident can actually speed up the emotional recovery process.
Grace Larson of Northwestern University studied divorce and breakups for years using longitudinal, multi-method designs, and along with her then-adviser David Sbarra of the University of Arizona wanted to study whether these research techniques on their own were affecting participants.
Larson said that one concern they had was that the studies could be harming participants.
At first glance, it might seem like repeatedly reminding participants that they had just broken up - and asking them to describe the breakup over and over - might delay recovery.
The researchers discussed with participants possible downsides to participating in the study, such as emotional distress, rather than benefits.
They were surprised to find the opposite effect.
In the study, they split participants into two conditions: with one group, using a suite of methods for observing coping and emotions (such as questionnaires, psychophysiological measurements like heart rate monitoring, an an interview-like task); and with the second group, only asking them to complete initial and final questionnaires.
All the participants had experienced a non-marital breakup within the previous 6 months.
The study is one of the first to look at whether the methods used in typical observational studies of well-being and coping can in and of themselves affect well-being.
The researchers do not yet know exactly which aspects of the study caused these changes but they suspect it relates to participants thinking about their breakups from a distanced perspective. Or, Larson says, “it might be simply the effect of repeatedly reflecting on one’s experience and crafting a narrative - especially a narrative that includes the part of the story where one recovers.”
Another factor, she says, is that in the measurement-intensive condition, participants privately spoke about their breakups (into a voice recorder) four times.
While the speaking task was not structured like a typical expressive writing exercise, having the ability to be emotionally expressive may have given the participants the well-documented benefits of expressive writing.
Larson recognizes that most people experiencing recent breakups will not have the option of participating in a scientific study but suggests finding other ways to regularly reflect on the recovery progress.
“The recovery of a clear and independent self-concept seems to be a big force driving the positive effects of this study, so I would encourage a person who recently experienced a breakup to consider who he or she is, apart from the relationship,” Larson says.
“If that person can reflect on the aspects of him- or herself that he or she may have neglected during the relationship but can now nurture once again, this might be particularly helpful.”
The study is published in Social Psychological and Personality Science.
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