'She refuses to acknowledge me...'

Jan 30, 2016, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

I was friendly with this girl for about a month. We used to travel together in the Metro daily...

Dear Diana,
I was friendly with this girl for about a month. We used to travel together in the Metro daily. However, last week, we had a small tiff. I did not realise that she would make such a big deal about it. She had told me to wear a white shirt on that day and I forgot about it. We had decided to be colour coordinated. She was upset and we started arguing. She then walked off in a huff. I did not go after her and apologise. The next day while travelling, she refused to acknowledge me. After that day, though we are in the same train, she does not look at me. What should I do? I sent her a text message saying that I had genuinely forgotten, but she did not reply. I have tried to talk to her, but she does not listen and walks away.
— Nayan

Illustration/Uday Mohite
Illustration/Uday Mohite

Dear Nayan,
Your girl fought with you for a silly reason. If you had genuinely forgotten to wear a white shirt and explained to her, there was no need for her to make such a big deal about it. You were not ridiculing her or berating her. If she refuses to talk to you, let her be. The more you try to strike a conversation with her or try to acknowledge her, she will not pay any heed. Just let her be for now. The next time you are together in the Metro, make sure that you are away from her. You have apologised to her and sent her SMSes. She does not care for you. So, ignore her for a while, if she cares about you, she will come around. Otherwise let her be — she is just not worth it.

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