'Strip in your bedroom, not on Skype'

May 17, 2016, 06:00 IST | Dr. Love

Introducing Dr Love, who solves your relationship riddles in a confusing digital age

Q. My boyfriend wants me to strip for him over a Skype call. What do I do?
A. The interesting thing about stripping for anyone at the other end of a webcam is how easily that footage can end up on a porn site like www.NaiveExGirlfriend.com or something equally obnoxious. The good thing about technology is how it can make our lives simpler, making it possible for us to be in touch with people on the other side of the planet. The bad thing about it is how, like everything else on earth, it encourages perverts to come up with new ways of seeing other people without their clothes. If your boyfriend wants you to strip for him, do it in the safety of your bedroom or his. Why do it over a potentially unsafe public network that makes it possible for the whole world to see the colour of your underwear? Ask him to relax and tell him you're not comfortable with the idea. If he insists, ask him to strip for you instead.

Q. My boyfriend says he will leave me if I don't have sex with him. What do I do?
A. Find a nicer boyfriend, obviously.

Q. Should I be worried if I'm 21 and still a virgin?
A. Why should that worry you? Where do you get the idea that losing your virginity before you turn 21 defines you in any way or makes your life better? If you choose to lose your virginity, do it when you feel comfortable with the idea, not because your friends tell you it's time for you to lose it. There's much more to life at 21 than just losing your virginity. Focus on your career, for instance, travel a little, have a good time with friends. When the time is right, you will know it. Also remember that so many of our political leaders claim to still be virgins at 50 or 60, and some of them still appear to be almost normal, don't they? Why worry about it now? Live a little.

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