Sutapa Sikdar shares picture of Irrfan Khan's grave decorated with roses: Her only hope, wish to move backward

Updated: 10 October, 2020 07:56 IST | mid-day online correspondent | Mumbai

Sutapa Sikdar took to her social media account and penned a poem written by American poet Louise Gluck. The poem was addressed for her late husband Irfan Khan.

Irrfan Khan with wife Sutapa Sikdar. Picture Courtesy: mid-day archives
Irrfan Khan with wife Sutapa Sikdar. Picture Courtesy: mid-day archives

Irrfan Khan's family and fans are yet to get out from the shock of the untimely demise of the versatile actor. Irrfan passed away on April 29, 2020. The actor was undergoing treatment for Neuroendocrine cancer and was admitted at Mumbai's Kokilaben Dhirubhai Ambani Hospital due to a colon infection. Irrfan's son Babil Khan and wife Sutapa Sikdar have been sharing various pictures of their good old days spent with the late actor on their social media accounts.

Recently, Sutapa took to her social media account and penned a poem written by American poet Louise Gluck. The poem was addressed for her late husband. Along with the note, she shared the latest picture of her Irrfan's grave that is now decorated with roses. Check out the note here:

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I'll tell you something: every day people are dying. And that's just the beginning. Every day, in funeral homes, new widows are born, new orphans. They sit with their hands folded, trying to decide about this new life. Then they're in the cemetery, some of them for the first time. They're frightened of crying, sometimes of not crying. Someone leans over, tells them what to do next, which might mean saying a few words, sometimes throwing dirt in the open grave. And after that, everyone goes back to the house, which is suddenly full of visitors. The widow sits on the couch, very stately, so people line up to approach her, sometimes take her hand, sometimes embrace her. She finds something to say to everbody, thanks them, thanks them for coming. In her heart, she wants them to go away. She wants to be back in the cemetery, back in the sickroom, the hospital. She knows it isn't possible. But it's her only hope, the wish to move backward. And just a little, not so far as the marriage, the first kiss. by #Louise Gluck#Nobelprize#celebratinglifeand death

A post shared by Sutapa Sikdar (@sikdarsutapa) onOct 8, 2020 at 5:19am PDT

Her son Babil Khan also shared the same picture on his Instagram handle. Babil had also shared a beautiful message about Irrfan's gentle soul.

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"When a man is just born, he is weak and flexible. When he dies, he is hard and insensitive. When a tree is growing, it’s tender and pliant, but when it’s dry and hard, it dies. Hardness and Strength are death’s companions. Pliancy and weakness are expressions of the freshness of being. Because what has hardened will never win." - Tarkovsky . Here’s to watching ‘Stalker’ with you for my first film essay three years ago, I’m watching ‘Stalker’ now for the last dissertation. I pause the film from time to time, just like you did with me, to take it all in, you were teaching me then, now I teach myself. Here’s to you, who never hardened, here’s to your forgiving, sensitive soul.

A post shared by Babil (@babil.i.k) onOct 8, 2020 at 8:41am PDT

Also Read: Irrfan Khan's Son Babil Shares Throwback Pictures Of The Late Actor, Writes 'It's Weird This Time'

A few days back, Sutapa had written on the ongoing debate on nepotism and groupism in Bollywood sparked due to the death of Sushant Singh Rajput on June 14. Taking to her Facebook account, she gave the example of her late husband did not seek approval of anyone in Bollywood, neither did he sulk or gossip when not invited to parties or magazine front page photoshoots.

She wrote, "If you consider your work a spiritual quest you won’t be sad if people didn’t call you for their "parties" or did not come for your "premiers". Irrfan did not get a cover page of a film magazine for many years he did not waste his time gossiping about people or bad mouthing nor did he get depress, he chiseled his craft ..and refused to be part of it till he got the cover page and he did. (he got mostly depressed not clinically but sad, looking at the disparity in the society.) or once or twice went to a brink of breakdown preparing for roles not because so-called insiders did not call him for holi parties. and yes no one dared make fun of him ever on any show or any channel."

Recently, in an interview, Sutapa Sikdar had talked about her late husband what are the qualities that made him an ideal husband and a father, and how he spoilt her for life.

Irrfan Khan, who made his debut with a small role in Mira Nair's Salaam Bombay in 1988 was known for his performances in Maqbool, The Namesake, A Mighty Heart, Paan Singh Tomar, Life of Pi, The Lunchbox, Haider, Gunday, Piku, Talvar, and Hindi Medium, amongst others. His last film Angrezi Medium released in March this year.

Also Read: Irrfan Khan's Son Babil: My Father Was Defeated At The Box Office By Hunks With Six Pack Abs

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First Published: 10 October, 2020 07:50 IST

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