The love of my life is marrying someone else
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I am in love with a married woman. She doesn’t say anything, but I think she feels the same way. We live in the same building. I am single and just two years younger than she is. We chat whenever we meet in the lift or outside, and she has given me her number. I sent her a few forwards on WhatsApp and she has responded with smiles. I want to ask her out, but I’m afraid of how she will react and what her husband might say if he finds out. At the same time, I think she expects me to ask her out. I don’t know what to do. If something goes wrong, it will be hard for me to continue living there because my neighbours will gossip. Please help me find a solution.
I fail to understand how you pre-empt so much from the fact that this woman has given you her phone number. I can’t fathom how you have arrived at the conclusion that she wants you to ask her out or, more importantly, that she reciprocates your feelings without either of you saying anything about this specifically. How her husband or your neighbours deal with this ought to be a secondary issue, considering the big moral questions this throws up. What you are asking for is help with committing adultery. I’m afraid I can’t help you there.
What can I do about my girlfriend’s father, who always yells at her whenever we go out on a date after 6 pm? He only wants her to go out during the day. I don’t get it. She thinks it’s ridiculous too, but she’s afraid to question him.
He obviously thinks daylight is safer for some reason. There’s nothing you can do, because this is his daughter you are dating, which means it is up to her alone to speak to him. And, who knows, he may have a very reasonable explanation for what seems like a bizarre rule.
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