Two of my close pals hate each other

Jun 12, 2012, 06:33 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana, I'm a 17-year-old-student and I have made two good friends in college. The trouble is that they don't get along with each other and dislike each other since their school days.

It’s a bit difficult for me to be in a group which isn’t really a group. Though both of them know that I’m friends with each one of them, it gets awkward and confusing at times who to heed more. I’m like this pendulum between the two. It always gets me in unnecessary emotional turmoil. So I want you to tell me how to handle my friends who don’t want to be friends with each other. I just want both of them to change their attitude and be friends.
— Fauzia

Dear Fauzia,
You don’t have a problem with either of them, so why are you creating one when there isn’t? It appears that you spend more time meddling in other people’s business. What’s going on between the two is their problem, not yours. They are both your pals, so let them be. None of them has told you to mend fences between them. So why are you trying to be the saviour of the two troubled souls? You don’t know the exact reason they prefer to stay aloof from each other. Till you don’t know the real picture, keep to yourself. Don’t carry tales from one person to the other. This will only aggravate the situation between the two. You play cool and just be, let them sort out the problem between the two.  

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