'What should we talk about on the first date?'

May 16, 2016, 06:19 IST | Dr. Love

Introducing Dr Love, who solves your relationship riddles in a confusing digital age

Q. Could you tell me a few great questions to ask on a first date?
A. What you are asking me, in effect, is how you should have a conversation. If you are old enough to date, you should be old enough to have figured that out by now. Assuming you haven't though, I suggest you start by asking your date about his or her life, before moving on to what he or she does or intends to do, what his or her likes and dislikes are and whether or not Sachin Tendulkar's greatest innings was the one in which he scored a double century against South Africa at Gwalior in February, 2010. If your date has uninteresting responses to any of these questions, consider dating someone else.


Q. We go out every weekend. Are we dating?
A. Some people go out every day, others meet once a year but still believe they are dating. Couples define these rules. Do you think it's a date? Is there any hint of romance? Are you both meeting other people for romantic walks on the beach? You are the only people who can figure out whether or not you are dating. You should try and let your feelings decide that more than the frequency of your meetings.

Q. He's mean on Twitter, so I don't know if I should continue dating him.
A. A lot of people are mean on Twitter. A lot of people are liars on Facebook. A lot of people are boring on Instagram. Since when did a person's presence or personality online make us ignore what they are like in real life? A lot of people create social media profiles for a variety of reasons. Some like it for the anonymity it offers, others to stalk celebrities or their friends. Some probably create Twitter accounts so they can say stuff they would never say in real life. You should judge him by his behaviour towards you and other people offline, not by his mean streak online. At the very least, give him a chance to explain why he says the things he does to complete strangers.

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