'When is the right time to get into her pants?'
Introducing Dr Love, who solves your relationship riddles in a confusing digital age
Q. It's been three dates. Should we do it?
A. If you're counting down, you're probably about to do it anyway. Where did you get that number from? American chat shows? Sitcoms? Self-help books? How is that number important? Will you feel awful if you sleep with someone on the first date? Will you feel virtuous if you don't sleep with someone on the tenth date? Is sex more important to your date than it is to you? Do you want to do it at all? These questions are irrelevant, to be honest, because it all boils down to how strongly you feel about your relationship. Unlike our ancestors, who revelled in their bodies and the pleasure it afforded them, we deny ourselves now because we are taught to repress our urges. If you want to do it, do it. Your life is not a sitcom.
Q. When are we too old to have sex?
A. If you have the urge to do it at 99, and your doctor says it won't kill either of you, you should go for it. I'm not 99, so I have no idea when I will lose interest. I'm pretty sure I will keep jumping into bed if the urge exists though, assuming there is still someone who wants to have it with me. Don't let age bother you. If you need to pop a few pills before doing it, that's probably the point at which I would stop and do a bit of introspection. That's also when I would consider speaking to a doctor before going at it all night long.
Q. I get turned on for no apparent reason. Is that normal?
A. It is if you're from Delhi. In Bombay, that sort of thing is considered a little weird. When you say 'no apparent reason,' that's probably not true. There must be a trigger of some sort that compels you to get turned on. Try and figure out what that trigger is, or consider speaking to a counsellor.
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