If you don’t put pressure on yourself to define a date as successful or unsuccessful, you will have time to evaluate how you’re behaving.

Ask yourself if this relationship is meeting your needs and, if it isn’t, end it and move on. Don’t second-guess yourself if you aren’t happy.

Send her one last message saying you are willing to wait for her and then hope for the best.

If you have a clearer picture of when this situation can change, you may be able to find a solution that works even if it is temporary.

Be honest about what has happened and save her the trouble of having to make this trip under false pretences.

Ask yourself what you want from any relationship and be honest with yourself. Then try seeing how your partner matches these needs.

Am I being too hasty or putting too much pressure on him?

You feel guilty because you know you’re taking information imparted to you as a friend and using it to your advantage.

Arguments lead to anger and that isn’t always a reliable way of gauging how someone really feels about another person.

How do I do this and how do I know if I am doing something wrong?

DR Love

Dr Love with Mid-Day: Why am I so unsure of myself!