World Mental Health Day: Indian men between 30 to 49 are worst affected

Two months ago Mumbai woke up to the news of former Tata Motors GM Prashant Sibals alleged suicide According to the police the 45yearold had recently left his company under its VRS scheme and was battling depression since From the outside it would seem like Sibal was leading a life most can only dream of He was married and had two children was among the suits of his company and lived in a swanky apartment complex in Parel So why the suffering While the cops are investigating all angles and Sibal in his suicide note said nobody was to be held responsible for his death statistics from the 2016 report of a survey conducted by Bengalurus National Institute of Mental Health and Neursosciences NIMHANS might help join the dotsWhile one in 20 Indians suffer from depression the prevalence of deaths resulting from mental illnesses is the highest in Indian metros when compared with rural and nonmetro urban areas Furthermore productive age groups or working populations of 30 to 49 years are the most affected Within this bracket men make for the biggest chunk of sufferers evident in the highest mental morbidity rate among themWe sought expert opinion to understand the alarming statistics and why men choose to grin and bear itWhile lifestyle and work environments have undergone drastic changes in recent years the one factor that has remained constant in the words of clinical psychologist Sonali Gupta is the burden of masculinity Boys are brought up with the idea that men dont cry which becomes an impediment to any attempt at addressing an emotional concern says Gupta who sees eight male clients in a week while the number of women seeking therapy in a week is about 12The belief that the man is the provider or nurturer is part of deeprooted social conditioning that holds strong even today she says This prevents most men from considering taking a sabbatical from work Even if men come from financially comfortable backgrounds any fluctuation in the work environment can cause tremendous stress Thats because adhering to the traditional definition of a provider plays a role in how they see themselves she addsConsulting psychiatrist and author Dr Dayal Mirchandani discusses another consequence of traditional roles Many men have to take up jobs they may not like but are considered financially stable Doing what you dont enjoy day in and day out can take a toll he saysWorking conditionsPersonal life involves tightropewalking in the face of constant workrelated intrusions But what makes things worse is how aspirations are shaped by comparisondriven narratives flowing from social mediaDr Mirchandani recounts the story of a client who couldnt deal with the barrage of holiday pictures on Facebook and decided to go off social mediaThere is a significant shift in what it means to be rich and then showcasing it shares Gupta adding that she has seen a growing inclination among parents towards a foreign board of school education mainly because thats what others in the same socioeconomic bracket are considering And this comes at a costApart from workrelated stress that people across all age groups experience there are certain challenges specific to those between 30 and 49 years After a certain point in their career people experience what is called the ceiling effect Words like overqualified are being used for professionals with a sound skill set and the need to reinvent oneself arises explains Gupta Today a 23yearold could be making more money than a 40yearold and this could result in comparison and insecurityDr Mirchandani points out that going on a holiday is not the same any more People are made to toil before they go on leave and after they are back Sometimes they have to attend to calls even during the holiday which defeats the purpose of time outJobs have no room for big life events especially the death of a parent which usually the 30 to 49 age group has to grapple with Earlier people would be given a month or so of leave in such cases but today you are expected to be back at work within 10 days Where is the time to grieve asks Dr MirchandaniSonali GuptaThe way forwardLeading up to the World Mental Health Day Gupta threw open her Twitter handle to take questions on mental health last week Men had more queries than women While some got their basics sorted about what therapy means others sought suggestions for convincing their families to let them seek help she says Does this mean things are gradually changing Yes maybe a little But problems are getting more complicated too she replies We need to recognise that walking into a therapists office is a sign of strength not weakness