Dear Diana,
I just had a baby a month ago. Now, my husband works a lot and when he is home, I want him to care for the baby and bond with him so I can have a break and someone else holds the baby while I get work done.
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Now the baby really doesn't stay too long with my husband. I am guessing this is probably because he is very attached to me because of the breastfeeding.

The baby cries when I'm not around him. My husband infers he is hungry and gives him to me. What I'm asking is how do I get my husband to hold the baby just for an hour? How do I get my baby to like him?

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Dear Friend,
You can pump your milk and put it into bottles so he can take a turn with the feeding too, that is a good way for him and baby to feel that bond.

Just hand the baby to him. It should not be a big deal; it is his baby too. You're tired too; probably just as tired as him. He will never feel the bond if he keeps giving him to you. He needs to learn to soothe the baby. It can't be hungry all the time, babies like to be rocked and lulled.

A first baby is daunting but remember, it needs all the love and attention you can give it, he will get used to it and you might find after a while you cant get it off him! Allow the child to lie around though, perhaps around the husband so he's naturally curious and worried about holding him.

I'm trying but he keeps pushing me away

Dear Diana,
The guy that I am seeing on and off as friends has again being going through a rough time. I have tried to be supportive but he just keeps pushing me away. What should I do to show him I care?