Dear Diana,
For the past three years, I have been day dreaming about this girl. I even went through her profile on Orkut and never felt that she was seeing anyone. In July 209, I saw her hugging some other guy. I was shocked, and I think she saw me too and realised how hurt I was.

I was hoping the guy was a relative, but I later saw on her profile that she had accepted some guy who had proposed to her on the site. I later moved to a different cityu00a0-- not because of her, but it was an added benefit and I thought now I could forget her.

But now she is coming in my dreams and every time I dream of her, my feelings for her get more intense. I guess this is natural for someone trying to get over their love. I have not told anyone, not even my closest friends, about this. I wonder, if I get married to someone else in the near future, is it okay to tell her about my suffering in love?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Simply dreaming about her won't let her know how much you love her. You have to tell her that you do. If another guy beat you to it, you can either bow out or fight to stay on in her life. But I wonder... is this girl a friend, an acquaintance or just someone you love to ogle at? Don't kill yourself speculating. Unrequited love is a dangerous thing. The only way to get some closure over this is by telling her that you do love her (or used to, as is the case) and that you had to let her know.

Tell her that you do not care if she says yes but that you had to tell her. The sooner the better. If she says that she's already in a relationship, be pragmatic and quip that it's her loss and that it's a shame that you never told her sooner and that she will never get a chance to know how much you love her. Smile your way through and you will survive this.

How to tell our kids about our autumn romance?

Dear Diana,
I am 60, a widower for the pastu00a0 10 years. I recently met this very attractive 55 year old woman on a holiday. She is a divorcee. We fell in love and want to get married, but don't know how to break this news to our children. Any ideas?