Dear Diana,

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So I'm dating this guy for seven months now, but the catch is that we both live in different cities, miles away from each other. He asked me out over the net. I don't know what I was thinking and I said yes. He says that he'll be coming over to my city after a year for further studies.

However, I'm sure that this guy loves me a lot 'cause he even got my initials tattooed on his shoulder. I love him a lot, too. He is very caring and always avoids fighting with me. He is crazy about me. But our situation is getting the better of us.

And I don't think I can handle a long distance relationship, I'm too young for it (16 yrs, the same age as he is). But I can't bring myself to break this guy's heart. I don't think he can take it. And I also want to always be in touch with him but he says that if we break up he could never have the guts to talk to me or face me. I don't know what to do. I'm really confused and messed up!! Kindly advise.

Confused

Dear Friend,

It's not a decision you can sidestep. Although, it's only a question of one year. You could make that decision after a year.

Then, you needn't suffer the anguish that comes with being in a long-distance relationship. It looks like he's really in it for the long haul. Of course, it's obvious that he's passionate and sensitive yet very understanding. So it's quite clear why you don't want to let go of him.

And besides, you chose to get into a relationship too soon. Instead of breaking up, why not take a break. Talk and write of each other less often, so that each strand of communication becomes a much-awaited event. That will buy you time to figure out where you want to be at the end of the year.

If you do break up with him, he just might disappear from your life. What matters now is how you deal with the situation.

Yeh bhi hai, woh bhi hai...

Dear Diana,

I am a 25-year-old. I have been married two years and have a child too. My marriage took place under difficult circumstances.

I do care for my wife and child but have been in love with a girl since before my marriage and still am. We got physical and now the girl wants me to marry her or else she says she'll commit suicide.

She has cut herself before. Also, I don't want to lose either of them. Please suggest a way out!