He's way too suspicious and possessive about me!

Write to Diana at dianamiddaycom or fax her on 24150009 You can also post letters to Dear Diana Mid Day Peninsula Centre Dr S S Rao Road opp Mahatma Gandhi Hospital Parel Mumbai 400012Dear DianaI am a girl in a relationship with a married man We belong to the same religion but to different sects I am in this relation for the past 10 months Initially it was all fine but a couple of weeks back things started turning sour First he portrayed himself as a person who loves cares understands and trusts me to the fullest There Illustrationsameer pawarwas a stage when I was not able to see any one else and all my past relations seemed like mistakes I am 29 he is 39 married and has a nineyearold daughter He assured me that he will convince his wife and marry me ASAP making me his second wife As I was head over heels in love with him it was all fine with me but things started becoming bad very soon He is a suspcicious person who doubts a lot He cant see me talking to any man I am a working professional a sales person in a corporate company and I have to meet a lot of other professionals who may be men When we go to the malls to shop or drive around or go out eating I am not supposed to look around at other men I have no doubts he loves me but then this habit of his hurts me a lotSabinaDear SabinaHaving an adulterous affair with a married man is always going to look bad on your character I suggest you break away from this guy now that youve seen his true colours Hes being too possessive around you and thats always a harmful trait And besides being his second wife wont give you any significant inheritance rights or any such things Hes like this before the marriage Imagine how hell be after the marriage You have a career and cant and shouldnt throw it away for the love of one man because this guy just doesnt seem worth the effort Do the right right thing Cut him out of your life before it is too lateIm fighting for his sakeDear DianaI recently fought with my parents to the extent that they wanted to kick me out of the house We fought for over two days and I even considered moving out and finding alternate accomodation The reason for the fight was my insistence on going out with this one guy They seriously feel he wont amount to anything But I want him to have a fighting chance to prove them wrong Am I doing the right thingKajalDear KajalParents often assume they know whats best for their children and will go to any extent to protect their children from any sort of harm What parents most often dont realise is that by doing so theyre harming their kids stunting the growth of their life experience reserves and letting them make mistakes on their own They might be right in forming a perception but the fact that theyre shooting down allu00a0 chances for this guy makes you believe that you have to protect him even more leading to a vicious circleu00a0u00a0u00a0 Why does she need time to thinkDear DianaThe first time we met it was like fireworks went off in my body all at once That was the kind of effect R had on me Shes not your conventional idea of what a beautiful woman should be But to me she was that and so much more I began pursuing her in true earnest I asked her out she agreed we had a great time Several other meetings followed I soon realised that she was THE one for me I proposed marriage She said she needed time to think it out Her parents know I will keep her happy Why does she need time to thinkMarvinDear MarvinQuite simply put marriage is a humungously big and lifealtering decision A lot of pros and cons have to be weighed out before two families actually meet to talk on the topic I think you should be patient and see how this goes Give her time for to realise how genuine your emotions for her are So you have won her parents over Thats half the battle in the bag Just keep your fingers crossed