Dear Diana,
Can I love two people at the same time without intention of hurting or cheating either of them? There was this guy X whom I loved but then he got another girlfriend and I moved on.

After that, I met another guy Y with whom I was in a relationship for three years, but by the end of the second year, we started having huge fights and I broke off, giving him space to change but he didn't. He loves me a lot and so I patched up, but I am not crazy about him today.

I love him for some points (like he is cute) but when it comes to other points like understanding, I just hate him. Now X is back in my life. I love him like crazy and he even knows his responsibilities which Y doesn't.

X also loves me, but we are not in a proper relationship, because we both know there is no future in our relationship. Now both of them don't like when I talk to the other guy.

All of us are in the same college. Y's family is rich so I know my future would be secure, but it is X I love the most. I don't want to lose both of them and be left alone.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Doesn't look like you have a future with one of these guys. You say you love X because he is "cute" and Y because he is "rich." That isn't what you should be looking for in a guy or a relationship. Why X is wrong: He cheated on you. And you say that you are both aware that there is no future together.

So that's a clear no. Why Y is wrong: You and he are not compatible and therefore you will always argue and fight. Also, you say you are not crazy about him.

He just seems like a safe bet. Not enough to want to spend the rest of your life with. I think it is better to be alone than to be tied down to the wrong guy. What's the rush to "be with someone" and "plan for the future"? you can't make it happen. It will happen when the time is right.

Worried about giving bad news to my parents...

Dear Diana,
My parents had big dreams that I will go abroad and study, but my college application was rejected. How do I break the bad news to them with the least impact?