Do men become possesive after sex

Post-sex, he's become quite possessive and territorial!

Dear Diana,

Do men become possesive after sex? I've been with a guy for nearly a year now, and we recently started having sex around the beginning of the year. I've noticed now he occasionally refers to me as "my girl". He wants to see me the whole weekend and weekdays and is now openly jealous (if we walk past some guys and they check me out, he does this jealous laugh like he isn't amused) when other guys look at me.
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I've always worn short dresses and tight skirts since it suits my figure but now he makes comments about how I flaunt my figure and mentions the length of my dresses etc. He was never like this before we had sex! Are men territorial? I am curious...

Name withheld

Dear Friend,

I'm sure he was going to be this way, regardless of the fact that you had sex with him. I doubt it has less to do with being territorial and more to do with insecurities due to past experience.u00a0 His statements smack of ignorance and general chivalry. If you are comfortable wearing whatever clothes you wish, it shouldn't really matter to him.

Some men do get territorial and possessive but that's only because they thing they now "own" you in some perverse way. And if it does feel like that, my advice would be to up and leave before he gets worse. Jealousy is oneu00a0 thing. Dictating to you how to live your life because he has certain fixed ideas about how "his girl" should conduct herself in public is quite another.

We wanna teach him a lesson...

Dear Diana,

I found out my boyfriend was engaged to another girl for four years now (that makes it, since college!). Now, when I recently spoke to that girl she was also shocked that he is flirting with both of us. We are planning to teach him a lesson. What should we do?
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Alisha

Dear Alisha,

Be careful and get another friend to tag along when you do decide to "teach him a lesson". Don't take it lightly if he does threaten to get back at you or her, for that matter. If I were you, I'd let it pass and not trust her as much. And here's why: if it bothered her at all, she'd break off the engagement. She hasn't, has she?

Something's hurting me... but it ain't him!

Dear Diana,

We love each other a lot and can't even think of moving out from this relationship. We have a long-distance love but still we understand each other well, and trust each other a lot. It's been five years. And we've been best friends since our school days. But I'm still stuck somewhere. And I don't know what it is. I feel that something is hurting me, but it's not him. He cares a lot for me.

Jaya

Dear Jaya,

Take time off from the relationship to gauge where it is you two stand as a couple. There are obvious unresolved issues that you have to discover and remedy yourself. As you said, it isn't him. The more obvious question is: what is it? Was it an unrequitted love from your past? Did he cheat on you at any time? Has there ever been any reason for you to doubt why you are together? Ask yourself these questions, meditate and the answers will come to you.