Dear Diana,
My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for the past three years. It's been an amazing relationship for both of us and we have decided to get married. But there is one mighty problem. We both have had our share of relationships and have been completely honest about them to each other.

Our pasts don't matter to each other, except for this one thing. During one of her relationships, she willingly made a sex tape with her then boyfriend which found its way to the internet. She went through a fair bit of trouble for that then.

This incident doesn't bother me, but I have cousins and uncles and there's a good possibility that one of them might have already come across the tape or might do so, in the future. Their opinions don't matter to me, but my parents' does.

What if they come to know about it through them? I want to know if we should keep this a secret from my parents and cross the bridge when we come to it or should we be upfront about it to my parents before the marriage? They might accept my girlfriend or completely cast us off. Her parents know about it and have forgiven her and moved on.

Name withheld