Should I tell my husband I cheated on him?

Ira

Dear Ira,
If fate deals you a bad hand continuously, it simply means that you were not meant to be with that person. You haven't told me what kind of person you or your spouse was, so I won't be able to guess who was to blame.

Alcohol destroyed my bro's family life...

Dear Diana,
My brother's wife left him for another guy. He has become an alcoholic since. While they haven't divorced yet, the proceedings are on. A few days back, she came over to take some of her stuff. I had a word with her and tried to make her see sense. But she told me something that startled me u2014 that my bro's alcohol problem was always there. That it only worsened after she left. She also said that there was nothing left to salvage in the relationship and that it made no sense to stay tied to my brother. I am inclined to believe her.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
As a sister, you are right in being concerned. And if what she has told you is true, then you should be even more worried. Get your brother to stop drinking. Hide his stash, make sure he doesn't spend on more liqour unless he learns to control his vice. Also, make him understand that you know about his problem and that you will help him anyway you can. Tell him to let go of his wife. Obviously, she is quite keen to move on in life. Let her go.